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(Just for Laughs)
This post is shockingly one of my most requested posts from those of you who follow me on Instagram, so in honor of 4 years of ‘officially’ dating here it is!
How we met
Russ and I first met in middle school, I had just moved to Oklahoma and was needless to say a little unhappy about living here. We had art class together and from Russell’s point of view “he sat with me and tried to talk to me, but I never would”.
It is funny how God throws people in your path and how it can take you years to finally realize it. Anyway – fast forward to high school and somehow our paths didn’t really cross much again (or so I thought). I, of course, knew who he was and knew tons of girls who had crushes on him. He was truly a mystery – quiet, you didn’t see him at many parties, great at sports (always a +), and it seemed like even though we had mutual friends we were never with them at the same time. (We even have a picture together in our cap and gowns that we didn’t remember he was in until I found it a couple of years ago)
Fast forward again to my sophomore year of college when my friend Macey asked me to go kayaking on a lake in Edmond with her. When I got there, Russ was there. I hadn’t seen him since high school and was honestly weirdly nervous to be there with him. Over the next couple of weeks, we hung out a few times – always with our mutual friend group. About 3 weeks after seeing each other again, Russell went off to basic training for the Airforce. I couldn’t believe it, here I was starting to like him and now he was gone from my life again.
When he got back, we started texting and planning to hang out again. Weeks into texting and I still couldn’t quite believe that he liked me and as I found out later that as he had thought I was cute since 7th grade. (There is a lot more to that part of the story that I will share sometime). A couple of months after he got back from basic, he finally asked me to be his girlfriend and I was totally over the moon!
What we have learned the last 4 years
Since then, there have been so many highs in our relationship and definitely a few lows. I am thankful for all of them because they caused us to grow and learn so much and also strengthened our relationship. Here are a few things we have learned these past 4 years:
- Be in the moment as much as possible
- Make God a priority in your relationship and pray for one another
- Use your lows as a chance to grow and strengthen your relationship
- Take things day by day
- Don’t put pressure on yourselves to be perfect
- Have fun
- Laugh until it hurts
- Don’t take things too personally
- Always be supportive of each other dreams
- Pursue each other
- Find time to take or make adventures
- Cook together & share responsibilities
- Find a hobby you both enjoy
- Make time for one another a priority
- Always tell the other how thankful you are for them (who couldn’t use positive affirmations)
- (Side note: still working on this one) – Listen to one another and don’t jump to conclusions.
- Compromise where you can and stand up for yourself in places that you can’t
- Talk to each other – share fears, highs, lows, worries, anything!
We have had so many changes in our lives since we first started dating but the one thing I know for sure is to always take your relationship day by day and be thankful for it. Not only for all of the laughs, the late night arguments, the “you pick what to eat, no you pick”, jokes at your expense (even if you don’t want to admit they are funny) and everything else that comes with a relationship.
So Russ, thank you and cheers to the last 4 years. You are not only my best friend but one of the best men I have ever met. You are amazing, and funny, and smart, and soooo cute, and I will live every day knowing how lucky I am to have met you all those years ago!
If you have made it to here, I want to know – What are your secrets to a lasting relationship? We are definitely not relationship experts but these are things that we have realized make our lives so much easier and more fun!